Sometimes I get so mad at some of my favorite musicians.

They go on and on about their privacy and about fans being grateful for meeting them at all. They comment on the fact some fans get upset they can’t meet them or that their comments on social forums go unnoticed. 

It’s all “in my day, I never met my favorite bands. We didn’t have Twitter or Facebook.”

That’s it exactly.

The technology to communicate personally with your heroes didn’t exist when you were young. Now, that technology is easily accessible. Times have changed from the late 90’s when meeting a musician meant standing in the rain or cold for hours or doing ten hundred hours of yard work for a ticket. Now, if a fan can’t meet his or her favorite singer or guitarist, they can simply find a computer and talk directly to them. Even if it’s just something simple like, “good work. Love everything you do! thanks!” 

It would mean the same as if they said it in person but they can’t. Technology allows fans to feel closer to people they could never meet. In the late 90’s, the best tickets were maybe 100 dollars to get the best seats. Now, it is 200, 300 dollars to get in. In a recession like this, that money isn’t just available, no matter how many hours of yard work you do. 

Some fans aren’t the richest, or have parents who would never let them see a band in concert. Twitter and Facebook allow those fans to feel better about not seeing them in person. Some fans have been saved by the music of a certain group or musician, and want dearly to let the group know how much they mean to them, the fan.

It’s not easy getting the courage to put “@_____” or to write on a musician’s Facebook page. It’s not easy knowing that someone you admire retweeted soandso  but has never even acknowledged your tweet at them. 

Imagine in YOUR day, ten years ago, going to YOUR favorite band and having them ignore you as you stood in front of them, hands outstretched for a shake or an autograph. 

I think some musicians just get a big head about being famous. Who makes you famous? We, the fans. If we didn’t exist, you would be flipping burgers and living with your mom. 

It’s really irritating when a musician comments about a mundane activity and when a fan responds directly to such a tweet, it goes ignored.

Now, I’m not dumb, and I know that in the vast population of the earth, a musician probably gets 30 40 50 tweets directed at them in the space of a minute after their own was sent. However, answering one and not all is just rude. If you don’t want to take the time to answer everyone and be FAIR, then just don’t say anything. Just smile and accept the praise and adoration of a million people. 

What is even worse is when a musician will tweet “answering questions” or “ask me anything” or something similar, then never answer the questions, or only answer a few, or make some kind of comment about “so bogged down no time to answer now”.

If you aren’t going to take the time to respond and attend to each question YOU ASKED FOR, then stop it. Don’t tweet at all. Just leave the social media and go on being a mysterious being like YOUR favorite bands were when YOU were our age. 

I know many musicians who simply don’t have a Twitter. They leave the questions and answers for interviews and personal meetings. 

I’ve asked probably every one of my favorite musicians a really heart felt question that takes me hours to send, or even DAYS to get the courage to send. I can’t meet these people in person. Or even if I did, I couldn’t ask them because I would never hear the answer.

It really bugs me when musicians just act like that. Stop thinking all of us are just whiny, spoiled brats jaded by the technology of this day and age. Some people just want to be acknowledged. Some people just want their favorite band to know how they feel. 

Telling all of us to “be grateful” and “in my day…” doesn’t make us respect you or your privacy any more than we already do. It makes us feel worthless and respect you LESS.

Some fans, I will grant this, are just in it for attention and will bitch about the slightest thing. Some fans want immediate recognition as the next big thing. But the majority of them…of US, just want to have something to hold onto when times get tough. Knowing that Ronnie Radke or Kellin Quinn answered or even just retweeted me would make my day. Hell, it would make my life. It’s nice to see someone you respect and admire say “oh hey, yeah, I see you there, buying all my merch and going to my shows and PRETTY MUCH PAYING MY PAYCHECK. here’s an answer to your question. This literally took me a second to retweet”

I’m tired of being ignored because THEY have better things to do. If you don’t want fans asking you questions and talking to you and knowing about your personal lives, get off the internet. It’s not rocket science.


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